Who's to Blame?

When you share a living or workspace with others and clutter is present, there is often lots of pointing of fingers as to who "owns" the clutter. Rarely does this decrease physical clutter, instead it often adds to mental clutter because angry words are exchanged and feelings are hurt. Douglas Adams asserted that, "When you blame others you give up your power to change." Rather than trying to place blame, take responsibility for your part. Can you create homes for items so that others can put them in the correct places? Can you set an expectation that items are to be stored appropriately or there are consequences? Can you lead by example and always put your stuff away? Should you take some classes or hire assistance to learn better methods of dealing with extra stuff? Bottom line is to take care of your own stuff and provide support or assistance if requested or if you see a way to help without being intrusive or pointing a finger.